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15-Minutes on Wednesday [Jan. 13th, 2011|01:41 am]
Kelly J. Cooper
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Aside from shoveling, cleaning off my car, and wrenching/pushing/shoving the snowblower around, I MADE myself knock something off the list... well, sort of off-the-list. I mean... um... lemme s'plain.

OK, so, one of the things that happens in the heads of some ADD people is that we need an explicit set of steps to get something done. We can think those steps in our heads, but unless we express them somehow (like writing them down), they get tangled & problematic. Even if it's only three steps, something in our executive function area gets cranky & makes it tough to do the thing.

The list currently only encompasses the living room. But when last I spoke with the ADD coach, she suggested working on the attic so I'd have someplace to store stuff from other rooms as they got packed up or re-organized. I was looking for a particular box in the attic that I knew contained skirts from umpteen years ago that I will never wear again. I was going to add them to the bags of clothes in my car waiting for me to deliver them to Rosie's Place.

But that box was blocked, so I grabbed another box from a really bad OCD/hoarding period of my depression a few years ago. It was filled with the book review sections, the Parade magazines, and the Boston Globe magazines from somewhere in the neighborhood of six months' worth of Sunday papers. And I shoved the entire contents into a big Formaggio Kitchen paper bag for recycling.

Anyway, the work counts as part of my 15-minutes-per-day getting things done, but I don't have a plan for the attic yet... there are just 3, maybe 4 boxes whose contents I know that I can easily recycle or donate.

Why do I sound so over-explain-y and defensive? NO freakin' idea. To me, there are things that don't really count toward my 15-minutes-per-day, things you HAVE to do: shoveling snow, doing dishes, running laundry, going food shopping. They can require a lot of effort and when I do them, I feel like I got something done, but I don't feel like they count toward my 15-minutes-per-day work. They're just maintenance, not forward progress, if that makes sense.

I also wrote down the address & directions to Rosie's Place, which I've been meaning to do for months, if not years. That's a crucial step in the process of getting the bags of clothes out of my car (where they've been for at least 2 years, I think). AND I wrote down the hours during which they accept donations; also important information.

I think I feel bad because they aren't things on my list for the living room, which I'm feeling avoid-y about right now. But I shouldn't feel that way because they are things that are beyond maintenance; albeit things I've been neglecting for a long time & therefore feel bad about. Hmm. Guess I feel crappy due to the double-dose of guilt. OK. Good to know.
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[User Picture]From: wonderreader
2011-01-13 06:19 pm (UTC)

15 minutes and guilt

OK - sort out the double dose of guilt - make a list to put it aside in it's own garbage bag - or whatever will help you get past it - It sl\ounds to me that you are doing a GREAT job of getting a handle on stuff. And I get the maintenence vs 15 min of progress - you are making progress! Good job
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[User Picture]From: kjc
2011-01-14 03:44 pm (UTC)

Re: 15 minutes and guilt

Thanks, Mom!
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[User Picture]From: catness
2011-01-13 09:31 pm (UTC)
Here's another way to frame maintenance (from my own personal experience):

If I don't get maintenance things done, they pile up as THINGS I'M NOT GETTING DONE AND NOW ARE BARRING ME FROM GETTING MY CHECKLIST ACCOMPLISHED.

Then I cannot do either the maintenance things *or* the things on my equivalent of 15-minutes-per-day list.

So... for that reason I call any maintenance tasks completed a win for the day, even if I don't get to touch my other list. It just means that my barriers to working on my *real* list are covered for tomorrow.
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[User Picture]From: kjc
2011-01-14 03:44 pm (UTC)
I like that. Undone maintenance gets in the way of checklist.

Thank you!
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