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Help Me Kick My Own Ass [Oct. 31st, 2006|02:01 am]
Kelly J. Cooper
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Ok, it's my fault that I'm broke.

I recognize that.

But I'm having a metric ton of trouble fixing it.


Couple of questions:

1. If the thought Gee, I'd like to see Kelly write about that... were to wander through your head, what would the topic be?

2. If you could give me one piece of advice, one thing that you really want to pound into my thick skull and help me move forward (on jobs, on writing, on anything), what would it be?

[User Picture]From: lillibet
2006-10-31 04:12 am (UTC)
1. Recently I read about speculation on giving beta blockers to rescue and disaster relief workers, to prevent them from laying down traumatic memories in the first place, rather than having to deal with PTSD after the fact. I thought this would make a really cool basis for a piece of speculative fiction.

2. A life coach said to me once, in a conversation at a party, that the biggest thing he'd ever done to change his life was to put post-its all around his flat that said "DO IT NOW". Frankly, I think actually doing it would piss me off, but I often think of it and let it help me beat the procrastination monsters back into their caves.
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[User Picture]From: robotech_master
2006-10-31 05:22 am (UTC)
For what it's worth, I don't know whether this would apply to your situation or not, but since I've been unemployed I've cut way back on eating anywhere but in my apartment, and I've found that it's allowed me to stretch the meager income I get from unemployment and food stamps to a considerable degree. It never really hit home before just how much money one can really save by eschewing restaurants, even cheap restaurants, in favor of cooking for oneself, even out of cans and boxes.

If only I'd come to this epiphany while I was still employed—how much more money might I have right now? :/
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[User Picture]From: rmd
2006-10-31 11:10 am (UTC)
1. If the thought Gee, I'd like to see Kelly write about that... were to wander through your head, what would the topic be?

anything. i would want you to write a lot. about anything. write poems about how the mail got delivered late because the postal carrier read a postcard and was driven to tears at the thought of a love lost. write stories about the mice living in the backyard. write sagas about the secret adventures of ella, the neighbor's dog. write about your day. write about my day. just write. more. a lot.

2. If you could give me one piece of advice, one thing that you really want to pound into my thick skull and help me move forward (on jobs, on writing, on anything), what would it be?

the perfect is the enemy of the good. let go of being perfect and go strive for good.
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[User Picture]From: rmd
2006-10-31 11:11 am (UTC)
also, fresh off the lj, nnwm advice from my friend kit. summary: discipline. write a lot.
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[User Picture]From: istemi
2006-10-31 05:28 pm (UTC)
let go of being perfect and go strive for good

or for sufficient. We've talked about the decision tree for deciding what to do next, and there are so many considerations it becomes impossible to know what the best choice is. Stalemate. Fuck that.

Pick something and do it. Use some simple criteria and pick one task. If you're still thinking after five minutes, that's too long. Pick the one that's fastest to complete. In the event of a tie, flip a coin. Then do it. Enjoy the glow and releif of completion. If it wasn't the best choice, it's ok, because you'll start another one soon.

I heard a woman talking about decision making. Her advice was to act at 80% certain, rather than 100%. By 80% you've got a pretty good idea of how things are shaping up. You might be wrong, but you're usually right. So do it.
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[User Picture]From: liralen
2006-10-31 06:44 pm (UTC)
1. Anything. Everything. Why rainbows never touch the ground, where the stars go in the morning, what makes water run, a limarick about goats and how they have a secret plan to save the world...

2. When I have far too many things I should do it raises my stress levels so that I feel like I'll panic at doing anything. So what I usually do is write everything down. Piles of 6x4 cards are my latest mechanism. I don't worry about prioritizing, I don't worry too much about catagorization, but I try to only put one thing I can actually do on one card, or I put an idea, and then if I pick that card, I expand the idea into things I can do and things I can't do and things I'm waiting on someone else to do.

Then I randomly pick from the pile of "I can do" and do it. For a while I keep them in a "done" pile so that I feel good, and then I pick again and again and...

Then it's always just one card's worth of stuff and how hard can that be?

Dunno if that'll help or be boring but it works for me when I'm processing too much to be anything but paralized.
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[User Picture]From: liralen
2006-10-31 06:44 pm (UTC)
Oop... that's 3x5 cards, something like .49 for a pack of 100.
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From: (Anonymous)
2006-10-31 09:03 pm (UTC)
1. I agree with other posters -- I like to read *anything* you write. Write about how hard it is to get organized. You may have seen this -- http://www.oddtodd.com/index2.html -- a little flash animation about being unemployed. There's someone that took his brokeness and made it into something entertaining, that eventually got him out of being broke. Seems like a neat idea.

2. As my grandfather used to say, "do something, even if it's wrong." Don't worry about what to do, or how successful you will be -- just pick up things that interest you and do them. Make a standing appointment every weekday AM to get out of the house for at least 30 minutes. Start the day doing something small that's productive and gets you up and out, and I think it will make the whole day better.

- JP
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[User Picture]From: metagnat
2006-11-01 12:43 am (UTC)
I'd say you should take some of the good advice you're always giving me!

Also: accepting responsibility for your own brokeness doesn't make it suck less. Don't kick yourself in the head about things. Be cognizant of your own strengths and weaknessess and talents and everything, but don't let that overpower your ability to get things done.

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